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Most men admit to remaining curious as to what turns a woman on and what specific body parts require the most attention. It is not until several rounds of trial-and-error that men will begin to become aware of what turns their partner on in between the sheets. They then stick to the usual repertoire in the boudoir. Now, Canadian scientists have found a way to eliminate the process altogether by identifying the most erogenous female body parts, based on touch, pressure, and vibration. The recent study is published in the Journal of s*xual Medicine.
To investigate, the team of Canadian researchers at the University of Montreal recruited 30 women between the ages of 18 and 35. Using light touch, pressure, and vibration, they studied each woman’s cli**ris, labia minora, vaginal and an*l margins, the lateral chest, areola, and bosom. They were then compared to neutral areas on the body, such as the neck, forearm, and abdomen.
The women were asked to lay under a bed sheet while they stimulated various outer parts of the female body with scientific instruments. The researchers asked the participants to rank their sensitivity to light touch, pressure, and vibration stimulated by the instruments in each area. Stimulation was applied for 1.5 seconds. Then, the researchers waited for five seconds before they asked the women if they felt it.
The unsurprising findings confirmed our common knowledge and the scientists’ knowledge about the erogenous zones in the female anatomy. When it came to light touch, the neck, forearm, and vaginal margin were ranked the most sensitive area, and the areola was reported the least sensitive. The cli**ris and bosom were the most sensitive when it came to pleasure, whereas the lateral chest and abdomen were the least. Lastly, the cli**ris and bosom were found to be the most sensitive to vibration. The cli**ris, expectedly, was the most sensitive to vibration compared to all the body parts.
Overall, the female private parts were found to be more sensitive to pressure and vibration compared to touch, which the scientists found “interesting” since people enjoy s*x and s*x toys, according to Time magazine. The Canadian scientists hope their findings will lead to more satisfying s*xual experiences for women since their most erogenous zones are now scientifically proven. They also suggest this can provide useful information for doctors who perform chest augmentation and gender reassignment surgery.
Feet were once thought to have a sensual connection to the private parts due to the concentration of nerve endings in the sole and digits of the foot. However, in a 2013 study, neuroscientists have found it to be the least appealing part of the male and female anatomy when it comes to studying the link between s*x and the brain.
So men, stop the toe sucking and licking, and use what scientists have confirmed. They have better equipped you to please your woman.

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Best Sex of Your Life
Mind-blowing orgasms await you ... if you're willing to talk about it.
Sex doesn’t get talked about enough.
The word "communication" can be found in 99 percent of modern relationship advice/literature… but it’s rarely to do with our sex lives. It’s usually focused around dissolving conflict, going deeper in your relationship, or expressing jealousy. All of which are totally valid things to want to work on.
And some arguments can be best served with a passionate, emotionally present night of sexual play faster than they can be with words.
That being said… sex! How are we not talking about it with our partners more? Well, we are now.
Let’s do this.
Here are five questions to ask to increase the quality of your sex life. Some might be easier for you than others, but I promise that if you implement them, you’ll notice benefits from each and every question.
1. What have been some of your favorite sexual experiences (whether between us or with others)? What was it about those experiences that you loved so much?
You may have to set your triggered ego aside for this one because, spoiler alert, your partner likely had sexual experiences before they met you.
When you and your partner think back on the entirety of your individual sexual history, what moments or experiences stand out to you as the hottest/most erotic/most deeply satisfying?
This is a question that really deserves to be pondered. Give it a few days. Journal about it. Talk about it.
What have been the best sexual experiences of your life? What have been some of your partners? And then, once verbalized, are each of you willing to incorporate that experience or some version of it into your sex life?
Granted, some experiences you’ll want to keep in the past, but if there’s something that you and your partner (or one of your former partners) used to do that you really miss, you’re allowed to introduce it into your present day sex life.
2. What does your ideal sex life look like?
What does your ideal sex life look like? What kind of frequency would make you the happiest? What specific acts would you want to engage in on a weekly basis? What kind of emotional content do you want your lovemaking to have? Does your ideal sex life involve cuddling? Bondage? Morning quickies? Ample cuddling? Whatever you want, you’re allowed to want it.
Think about it, chat about it, and incorporate whatever you both find agreeable.
3. What do you love about our current sex life?
If you’re doing these questions in order with your partner (totally up to you) then the first two questions might have kicked up some interesting new ideas. This question is about reminding you both of what is already working for each of you.
What specifically do you already enjoy about the sexual play that you and your partner regularly engage in?
You might be surprised as to what answers bubble up to the surface for yourself and from your partner. The simplest thing that you love might be a total shock to them, and similarly, they might verbalize something that was totally off of your radar. These little surprises are what makes these exercises/questions so valuable. Even if you’ve been with your partner for years, you don’t know unless you ask.
4. Is there anything you would like to be doing more of together in our sex life?
Maybe you used to do something together frequently when you first started dating, but then it fell by the wayside. Maybe a certain position got lost in the shuffle because one of you secretly felt less confident while you were having sex in that position. Whatever the reasons are that sexual habits fall out of favour, it’s good to talk about them.
Is there anything in you and your partners sex life that either one of you wants to re-integrate into your sex life?
5. Is there anything new you have wanted to try, but weren’t sure if you were allowed to want it?
For countless unfortunate reasons, there’s so much shame tied to our relationship to our sexuality. Well meaning parents, peers, movies, media, and misguided early sexual educators give us a lot of faulty beliefs around what is considered “normal” in what we’re allowed to want when it comes to sex. So this is the shame melting round of the exercise.
What would you like to try, if you weren’t afraid to ask? What do you need the permission to ask for? What sexual acts do you feel like you don’t deserve?
If you’ve been following me for a while then you’ve likely heard of “spoiling sessions”. Spoiling sessions are a perfect example of an exercise in sexual receptivity that brings up a lot of anxiety for certain people. It’s not always easy to explicitly ask for what we want. But it is uber-valuable and super fun once we get to the place of being comfortable with it.
So what, in your sex life, would you ask for if you knew that your partner could potentially be open to it?
Want Better Sex? Just Ask
Communication is vitally important in any relationship. Sex is just as vital (however you define sex for yourself).
By intentionally setting aside time to talk with your significant other about the status of your sex life, you could save yourself years of pain, and add that much more joyous sexual play into your daily life. So the question isn’t “Will asking these questions be worth the potential awkwardness?”, but rather, “How can I afford not to have this conversation with my partner?”
Your new and improved sex life starts today.

Check out Jordan's video course Supercharge Your Sex Life for lots of great tips and tricks that will help you on your journey towards sexual mastery and get even more mental, emotional, and sexual prompts.

This article was originally published at Jordan Gray Consulting . Reprinted with permission from the author.
 

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Why I Chose To Be Celibate

There's a big part of me that values purity.
Just a few short years ago, I was your basic art school student, following all the latest trends in indie rock, guzzling PBR, shooting movies, but not having sex. No, I wasn't a late bloomer and I didn't have trouble relating to women my own age; I was celibate.
I'd lost my virginity at an average age, had a handful of partners, and experienced the same urges as anyone in their twenties. My decision to refrain from intercourse came because those early experiences never added up to much more than awkward teenage sex, and a growing resentment of the mating rituals expected of college students.
I've never considered myself a prude and think saving sex for marriage is a horrible idea. Intimacy, after all, is an important part of any romantic relationship, and far too important to leave to chance. It's just that I don't understand the notion of giving yourself to someone just because they happen to be at the same party as you, and I don't believe in giving into fleeting sexual urges under the guise of gaining "experience."
Non-religious celibacy is generally thought to be induced by one of two things: 1) prematurely filling up your sexual punch card (i.e. Lenny Kravtiz), or 2) having an insatiable craving for control (i.e. Cleopatra). I, on the other hand, didn't feel a newfound maturity, and I wasn't seeking any sort of sexual upper-hand. I simply didn't want to fill my bedpost with notches that weren't all that impressive.
My venture into celibacy lasted for around three years. There were admittedly a few close calls: the really sexy girl who had been around several blocks, the really endearing girl who was missing a few marbles, and the older woman who tried to have sex with me twenty minutes after we met in the bathroom of a dive bar.
These were the women I turned down. Any one of them would've made a really hot scene in an erotic thriller, but that wasn't what I was looking for.
I wasn't waiting for the perfect girl or even necessarily love, just someone who I would be proud to share a (somewhat) meaningful life experience with. Isn't that what sex should be? I wanted someone whom I sincerely enjoyed the company of and who really seemed to care about me.
I didn't want to be just another notch on her bedpost, either. I didn't want to be the token "rocker guy" fulfilling someone's childish fantasy. But didn't I still need "the release" that sex provided? Didn't I need to "clean out the pipes" as Bravo madam Patti Stanger would say? Well, for that, it only takes one to tango.
There's a part of me that values purity. I realize that people aren't bars of soap and that their bodies don't slowly wear away with each encounter, but the notion of having the privilege to indulge in something that several dozen others have already enjoyed doesn't seem like much of a privilege at all.
I've always been immediately put off by girls who talk casually of having sex with guys they meet while they're out. And any mention of a "number" in the double digits causes me to lose interest.
I gave up celibacy when I finally met someone who intrigued me on many levels. We had fun between the sheets, at rock shows, or just lounging around watching old horror movies. She wasn't the girl of my dreams, but she was someone special, although we eventually parted.
Since then, I've met someone who seems to be the girl of my dreams and we've been together for a year and a half. Did I imagine making love to her the day that we met? Of course. Did I? Nah. I figured that waiting a few weeks just to make sure we were as compatible as I felt we were would make it that much better. And it did.
Nowadays, friends playfully tease me about those days "back when I was a celibate," and even my girlfriend jokingly calls me "Mr. Celibacy" after we've spent an entire weekend in bed. They act as though it was a silly phase I went through when my head wasn't screwed on correctly.
But the truth is, if I came to be single again, I would likely be right back in the same place. I didn't make a deal with myself to test how long I could resist; I didn't proclaim to never want to have sex again. I just didn't see the appeal in getting intimate with people that wouldn't be around for awhile.



Even though sex is a natural activity that is even faced by animals, some men are still yet master it. This is the incompetence that is usually registered in the form of the numerous mistakes that you make in bed. These mistakes end up causing the women or woman major frustration and irritation. This is why more and more women in the world are denying their spouses sex not because they have sidekicks but because they are tired of receiving substandard sex that is not the in the least bit satisfying. If you fall in this category of men who are unable to satisfy their women, you probably want to argue that women are too complicated for you to understand and satisfy. However, even if that was the case, some mistakes you make are still very irritating.
You don’t believe? Let us look into each of these mistakes and try to understand why they are deemed as irritating.

1. Too little or unimpressive foreplay
I once heard a man joke that a woman is like a faulty engine that needs lots of work to turn on.   As far fetched as this may sound, it is true. No woman wants to be ridden when she is still dry down there. If anything this will just cause her pain and no pleasure at all. When it comes to foreplay, you should take enough time and ensure she is fully aroused and no, foreplay does not only involve you sucking her breasts and pulling her nipples. This focus on just one area will irritate her as it will stop doing anything for her regarding arousal.
2. Lasting for a split second
Hallo Mr. Man. This is not a marathon: it is a love making the venture. One of the gravest mistakes men make in bed is having sex for less than a minute and quickly drifting to sleep. This leaves the woman high and dry. I mean, what was the essence of you initiating the whole process if you were not going to run it to the end. This mistake is even made worse when the man comes all over the woman, yet she was just getting started. Such a woman will feel irritated and angry at the man for leading her on for nothing. From a man’s perspective, it is like a girl teasing you until you are overly aroused and then refusing to give it to you. How would you feel? That is exactly how your woman feels every time you have sex for a maximum of one minute and fail to wait for her to hit her cloud nine.
3. Assuming that you are aware of her needs
In an attempt to protect your ego, you may be afraid to ask your lady what works for her or whether you satisfy her. This will make you assume the lead role in every encounter. When this happens, the woman will feel like she is some object that is not supposed to have any feelings and is just meant to give you pleasure. To avert this, try asking her what she wants done for her. After all, if sex was supposed to be one sided then you might as well have had it with yourself.

4. Sleeping immediately after the encounter
A common point among men all over is that most of them tend to drift off to sleep immediately after sex. This is probably because sex has been known to help sleep better. However, the same experience will have very different effects in women. After sex, women will feel vulnerable and will crave for someone to hold them tight and reassure them. Now, when you immediately turn your back after withdrawing, the woman will feel unwanted thus causing her irritation.
5. Repeating the same old routines
Have you ever listened to the same song over and over again until you got too irritated that you threw your TV off the balcony?  Now, you may have never done that but, that is what women feel like doing to you when you keep repeating the same styles in bed. This is especially rampant during foreplay where you are likely to hover around one point. Please stop boring her with a single move; be creative and experimental. You can even ask her for hints and her fantasies.
Conclusion
Many women loathe sex as it only leaves them angry and frustrated due to the many mistakes their men make. These mistakes usually start from inadequate foreplay, some old routines, a little time and the men’s insensitivity to their needs. A combination of these misdeeds will leave your woman feeling used, unsatisfied and neglected thus summing up to mass irritation. In the long run, she will start denying you access to the cookie jar because she does not want to be left hanging.
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Sophie Addison is a professional writer. She is an independent health and beauty researcher. She is 28 years old studied Medicine from University of Washington, apart from this she enjoys gardening and listening music. She has contributed her work for many sites for beauty and health category. She has written numerous articles on beauty care, general health issues and many more like this. You can also contact her on Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter.

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