I GOT NAUGHTY WITH A MALE MODEL

If I’m paid to pose half-naked with a male model and I sorta get carried away, is that cheating?


By E. Jean

Dear E. Jean: I'm a full-time grad student who models to earn extra money. I'm also, apparently, the stupidest person in the world. During a lingerie shoot with a male model (who I admit was very hot), the photographer offered me a lot of money if I made my posing "less runway." In particular, he asked me to take off the bra. A lot of girls do this, I needed the cash for school, and I thought the male model would be professional, so I agreed. What a mistake!

Our posing went from "glamour" to "artistic" to "erotic." I finally pushed him away. It was difficult. He smiled and said, "I couldn't stop myself." The images will appear on websites, not magazines; and yes, I was paid; but now the guilt is eating me up. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend. We're going to be married next fall. Is this considered cheating? What should I do? Should I tell him? He'll be so hurt!—Stupid, Stupid, Stupid

P.S. I gave my fiancé the money I earned so he could use it as a down payment on a new car.

Stupid, my pet: Yes. You cheated. But not on your boyfriend. (Just because the model dude was "hot" and "it was difficult" to push him away, remember: If you grope each other for money in front of a camera, that's working; if you grope each other for free behind the camera, that's cheating.)

It was your career you cheated on, Miss Stupid, you hussy. Because no matter how professionally fondled they were, now is not the time for your boobs to debut. No! No! No! Auntie Eeee would love her own boobsicles to appear naked and jolly all over the Internet; but what with the economic slump, the freshly sacked and spanking new college grads flooding the job market, the merest whiff of a tit can kill your career. And don't kid yourself: When it comes to googling canoodling, nobody noses out a naked knocker like a prospective employer (or a future husband).

Your name must not appear with the images. If the photographer refuses to remove/change it, make an appointment with an attorney from your university's pro bono program to explore your options (i.e., did you consent to have your name published on the websites? If not, then you have every right to demand that your name be removed from all images).

So to answer your question: No. Don't tell your boyfriend. Boyfriends don't want to be told these things.

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