An English woman is in a sexual relationship with her
biological son but denies that they are having an incestuous
relationship. Ben Ford, 32, left his wife to be with 51-year-old Kim
West, the woman who gave birth to him and gave him up for adoption.
The mother and son reunited when Ford, who was living in the
US, sent his mother a letter in 2013. West gave him up for adoption a
week after he was born. They began exchanging phone calls since then and
agreed to meet at a hotel, their first meeting since the adoption. They
shared their first kiss then.
Ford, who was married two years before meeting his mum,
admitted that his feelings for his wife Victoria waned upon reconnecting
with West, whom he started having sex with a number of times. He told
Victoria that he was leaving her for his mother. Victoria was
understandably upset.
With the help of another couple who were in a similar situation, they set up a new life in Michigan, US.
Their relationship falls into the category of incest, but
West denied that it is so. Labelling their attraction as GSA, or Genetic
Sexual Attraction, she told New Day (via the Mirror) that her love with her son is “a once and a lifetime chance” and she’s not going to walk away from it.
“I know people will say we’re disgusting, that we should be able to
control our feelings, but when you’re hit by a love so consuming you are
willing to give up everything for it, you have to fight for it,” she
said.
West and Ford claimed their sex life is “incredible.” They are planning to get married and have children together.
Genetic Sexual Attraction
As its name suggests, GSA is a type of sexual attraction
experienced by close relatives, including a parent and his/her child,
who met as adults. GSA refers to the sexual desire between related
people after having been denied to form proper emotional bond, according
to GSA Forums. Like in West and Ford’s case, they parted when Ford was still an infant and only reunited when he was an adult.
The phrase is coined by adoption support founder Barbara
Gonyo in the late ‘80s. Gonyo experienced GSA herself when she was
reunited with her biological son.
While GSA cases appear shocking to many, they are not rare.
Apparently, this occurs to up to 50 percent of all post-adoption
reunions.
Other cases of GSA
In Germany in 2007, a brother and sister fought the
country’s incest law so they could continue their relationship freely.
Patrick Stubing and his sister Susan had four children together. They
grew up separately and only met years later. According to the Guardian,
Patrick already served two years imprisonment for having incestuous
relationship with his sister, while Susan was never jailed because she
was tried as an adolescent.
The marriage of a pair of twins in England was annulled after they discovered their true relationship. The BBC
reported in 2008 that the brother and sister were adopted by separate
families as babies. When they met later in life, they felt instant
attraction and soon got married without knowing they were twins.
A 72-year-old grandmother in the UK in 2010 fell in love
with her own grandson, 26. Pearl Carter and Phil Bailey paid a surrogate
mother to give birth to their child. Carter gave up her daughter for
adoption when she was just 18 and unmarried. When his mother died from
cancer, Bailey decided to find his grandmother. They felt instant sexual
attraction when they first met, New Idea NZ reported.
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